Seek.
A snippet from Jordan B Peterson's podcast.
Look within and you shall find all the answers. I am sure you've got this advice at some point in your life. Allow me to explain why this advice doesn't make sense.
As societies move toward individuality, there is an increasing burden on the individual to figure out their lives for themselves. While some amount of individuality is conducive to growth, an over reliance on it can be suffocating. For the greater part of human history, we have lived together in communities, where growing up we were influenced by a large number of people, both good and bad, doing different things and living their lives in their own ways. It was upto us to choose our own role models but we always had someone to turn to when struggling to make decisions. But as communities break apart and strangers from all parts of the world start living in megacities, in one-bedroom apartments with little to no social interaction with the community at large, there is no one for them to look up to or to help them with their decisions.
To fill this void left behind by the erosion of communities, we have started believing in a romantisized version of a wise being present inside of all of us. Some people call it a soul. We are told that it has all the answers we are seeking and if we try really hard, it will reveal the answers to us. But isn't it stupid to assume that a 16-year old who has never stepped out into the real world will have this kind of a revelation which will help him figure out what he wants to do with his life? There is no point for him to look within because there is very little inside of him. No experience of failure. No wisdom of knowing right from wrong. No idea about the possibilities ahead of him.
I am sorry but that 'aha' moment we are so desperately waiting for is never going to come. It has been 22 years and I am still waiting. There are no right or wrong answers. No right or wrong way to live life. Instead of waiting to discover our "passion" and "purpose," we must spend our time aggresively trying new things, studying the lives of people we admire and seeking answers in the larger culture. And once we find something good enough, learn how to get better at it. Read biographies. Seek informational interviews. Talk to your friends who are doing different things. See what worked out for people and see what didn't. The divine revelation you are waiting for is never going to come.
The more voluntary suffering you build into your life, the less involuntary suffering will affect your life.